8: Third Shift Sisu
dealing with mental overload
Why do I feel so burnt out with having a career and children?
Because you work 3 shifts:
Shift one is the career
The infamous Second Shift is the caretaking of the house and kids
Shift three is the mental load that comes with the first two
Since the first two shifts are constrained by capitalist culture and gendered norms, focus more on the third shift.
Why not apply some of the Finnish logic of Sisu.
Prioritize physical activity in order to beat down mental models that don’t serve you. You can’t meditate your problems away, but you can walk off nerves.
Ahem, I have a career and kids. I don’t have time for physical activity…
You are right. I’m not going to patronize you by telling you to manage your time better. What about adopting some of Finnish culture where they combine tasks with physical activity - cycling and walking instead of driving, taking the stairs, taking a different and longer path irregardless of the weather.
Where I live I don’t have opportunities for physical activity in nature...
There is bound to be a tree nearby. Whenever I want to challenge the whole premise of productivity, I think of a tree.
Even with grit, I can’t beat down this mental overload…
Some things are simply outside of your control. Like gendered norms and capitalist culture. Let’s focus on the things we have slightly more control over. How you think and process words is critical to your health. Let’s change I can’t to I can’t...yet...
Bare bone recipe
I think about impersonal carrots.
“After fifteen years of practice, and about a thousand live shows, I was finally a good singer, at least by my own standards. Someone who heard me for the first time then said, ‘Singing is a gift you’re either born with or you’re not. You’re lucky. You were born with it!’” - Derek Sivers, Anything You Want
To your health -